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no sex until you agree to be in a committed relationship you both have Sexy wife seeking sex austrian swingers to be to a point where you are comfortable having that talk with each other and being honest about your feelings if you can't have that talk, you shouldn't be in bed. sex warps your mind, if you're making a mistake you'll never it. the glow of sex (and the comfort of another body next to you) turns on blinders you're ignoring the little things that foretell disaster later. plus each person has an unspoken view of the post-sex relationship, one might assume that this means committed, the other might just think its a hookup. when a person unilaterally decides what the relationship status is, it never ends well. everyone should have a list of 10 or 20 must-haves they want in a partner a list of the deal breakers. then you have to know where this person stands on those topics without just flat out asking them. some of them you'll know right away (ie sense of humor) and some you'll work into conversation and what their response is (ie if you cats, mention going over your friend's house who has 6 cats and what happens). by doing it this way you're taking away the possibility that someone is trying to answer what they think you want to hear, not the way they really are. as far as time, you could find out all of this in a month, it could be months. somewhere in that time frame is reasonable, less than a month is too and if you haven't gotten to that point by months, something ain't clicking and its time to move on. which leads me to my pet peeve from the post below endless and texting before meeting. by the time they do meet, they're both in with the imaginary being the other has created. they are already emotionally vested in an imaginary relationship. maximum 3 communications until you meet. that's it, 3. and those communications should only be to discuss meeting. you can't use those 3 to share your entire life story. hold back on a bunch of that personal shit until at least the 3rd date or finding out if they meet half of your must-haves. why waste all that time and emotion on someone who might not be good for you in the end? caveat: its ok to skip all of that shit and just be in it for the sex as as both parties know it and are good with it! Single Roma, 31

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